Advice to the Family

Sierra by the Sea staff knows that addiction affects many more people than just the one who is abusing substances.  The family of a man who is drinking or abusing drugs can be torn apart.

There is a saying in the rooms of recovery that “for every man who abuses drugs or alcohol, there are 10 other people whose lives also get ruined.” The pain and suffering of caring for someone who is in the grasp of a chemical dependency can be overwhelming.

– There are the mothers and fathers who suffer sleeplessly worrying about their son.

– There may be a girlfriend, wife, or even close friends who experience the hurtful and careless actions of a man whose behavior is shaped by his chemical dependency.

– Children who grow up in homes where a parent is an alcoholic or a practicing drug user often exhibit mood disorders and suffer greatly because of the neglect and abuse that may occur in a home where drugs or alcohol are being abused.

The family members of the men who arrive here at our rehab center know in their hearts that underneath the hurtful and irresponsible actions of the substance abusing man is their child, husband, father, brother, or colleague whose life is controlled by their drug of choice. The stress and hopelessness that come as a result of caring for a man who is suffering from alcoholism or drug addiction can destroy lives.

The Top Priority Is Taking Care of Yourself

Believe it or not, one of the best things you can do for a man who is abusing drugs or alcohol is take care of yourself so that you can be present and effective in responding to his behavior. It may require the help of an addictions professional to set boundaries and create an action plan for your own well being.

The loved ones of the man in need of treatment also suffer greatly from the stress caused by addiction. Drug addiction is a disease and there are many factors that contribute to its development. It is destructive for the family or loved ones of an addicted man to blame themselves or feel guilt about the progression of his addiction.

It is important that a family member reaches out to us to begin the process of recovery for their loved one. Our team of professionals knows how to assess the situation and answer questions about the man’s drug use, which will begin to make the family members realize that there is hope for the man who suffers from addiction. We provide a non-judgmental and private assessment process free of charge, which is the first step for a person in need of treatment. Our staff can also recommend one of the thousands of free support groups that are available for the loved ones of men who suffer from chemical dependency.

Without reaching out to us and beginning their education on the disease of addiction, a family might unwittingly be exacerbating the addiction by enabling the man who is in need of rehab treatment.

A Program of Recovery for the Entire Family

The treatment program at our drug rehab for men is designed to provide help for the entire family system. Depending on the treatment program that is designed for the man who enters treatment, he may not have telephone access for the first few days. However, his case manager and our entire treatment team will be in touch with the family immediately and often.

The Entire Family Can Help a Young Man

The clinical staff at Sierra by the Sea will always be available to patiently answer questions you may have. With many years of experience building a strong nationwide network of mental health professionals, we are able to refer you to highly regarded therapists, doctors, psychiatrists, psychologists, and addictionologists in your area should you seek further treatment or information.

After the man’s initial “no contact” period, the family is welcome to come to Southern California and attend group family counseling sessions at our treatment center. We feel that the family can be an integral part of the man’s long-term recovery program and we welcome the family into the man’s “wheel of treatment.”

Structure and Guidance for the Loved One in Treatment

As soon as the man arrives here at our facility right on the sand in Newport Beach, he will be screened and assessed by our intake department, and an admissions counselor will begin the process of designing an individualized treatment program for him.

Every person at Sierra by the Sea has household tasks that they must complete which help foster responsibility and accountability. We find that this builds fellowship and self-esteem.

The men will awake early and participate in a morning meditation before they eat a delicious and nutritious breakfast prepared by our private chef.  Throughout the day, the men will strengthen their program of recovery by participating in positive recovery oriented activities, including physical activities that break up the workshops, support groups, and therapy sessions.

No More Sleepless Nights

Men who come to our treatment center will quickly clear their mind of the drug that is controlling their lives and see that they must work on their recovery to begin a new life that can be greater than they could have ever imagined.

While the man is at our treatment center, the family can rest assured that he is in a safe and supervised location without access to drugs or alcohol. The family is encouraged to come to the monthly “family program” to participate in their loved one’s recovery program and be a part of the man’s new life free of drugs and alcohol.

Recovery Begins by Calling Us Today

Contact us immediately by calling 877-937-7152 to speak with our admissions team. We understand that the decision to enter a substance abuse treatment program is a difficult one, and you and your loved ones are experiencing pain and confusion. Turning over his recovery to the guidance and support of the excellent staff at our treatment center  is one of the most important decisions a chemically dependent man can make.

Do not hesitate to contact us for more information, including help with preparing for the drug detoxification process.

Recovering from substance use disorders is a challenging journey that feels more doable in an environment that tends to each individual’s complex needs and strengths. Our goal is to foster a treatment experience that is built on compassion, hope, and caring, and fueled by excellence in the provision of evidence-based and trauma-informed care.

– - Anonymous